About Kay Reeve
I have always had determination but never knew the power of it until I endured seeing my teenage son go through the challenges of learning to live with Asperger’s Syndrome, and dealing with suicidal depression.
It was through my son's journey that I discovered my own emotional journey as a mum. I discovered emotions so powerful, I was driven and motivated to keep going no matter what happened.
To give up on my son was as unthinkable as the consequences. For many years, I just felt like I was keeping his head above water emotionally but didn’t know how to get him onto safe ground and out of depression. I was frightened for his life so many times and sad that he wasn’t living his childhood to the full.
I had also spent seven years in active voluntary first-aid duty and learned there about taking care of your own emotions at the scene of an accident. I also studied basic counselling to help understand my son’s depression and home educated him from the age of nine. At thirteen, he published his first 25,000 word novel call The Red Dragon – A New Evolution. Now I was a proud mum.
In his later teens he was suicidal again and I was working as an administrator by now. I had some incredible management and leadership teams around me, who understood that much of my own anxiety was because I cared so much about my son. They also knew they could not help him, but they did help me. Tremendously!
The simple act of recommending personal development books, or taking just two minutes to listen to me, created a massive ripple effect. These self-help books were aimed at people in business and careers but I knew there were lessons in them that could help my son too. I studied and learned, sharing little nuggets with him along the way, but it wasn’t working.
Then I realised it was because he needed something visual to learn from – and so Brain Unchained began.
It was my experience of filing and sorting, organizing and planning as a career, that helped me apply the same processes, with positive thinking, into organizing and explaining emotions.
During my years as an administrator and facilitator at the Offshore Windfarm, I also learned the skill of public speaking, and took an adult education award, inducted new staff into the company, and delivered tool-box-talks to trade and service contractors. I was well aware of the importance of good communication.
Leading up to the creation of Brain Unchained, I first created the Emotional Cycle diagram, then followed later with a strategy for understanding a change of emotions, and then the root causes of change. This strategy as a whole became the Mood Mentor Model.
This all helped me in some way to write Brain Unchained in 2020 but to pay it forward, in respect of those who payed forward to help us, this part of my own journey started with a TEDx Talk in 2017 on Tackling Teenage Depression.
Pictured above, The Emotional Cycle Diagram became the basis of the book Brain Unchained, and Kay's online mentoring.
This provides parents with mentoring strategies from an educational and visual understanding, while giving those parents of teenagers struggling with stress, anxiety or depression, a way to move forward when their teenagers are avoiding the stigma of therapy and refusing help.
I understand all too well having been there as a parent, how this strategy can change the lives of both parents and teenagers by learning about the emotional cycle together in a non-psychology format.